He is an intimidating man dead end dating novels
Most recently I dated a man who I was apathetic about meeting because he didn’t meet my list.We clicked instantly and had dates that were a “blast” and as soon as I was ready to fall, he ran.I’m leaning towards just being positive – happy and energetic, but unavailable (even though I am). Now, I’ve never met you, and I don’t have any idea what your dynamic is on a date with a man.But this much I noticed: you mention several times that men are intimidated by you: And then they disappear.I know the answers, but he’ll never get to hear them.It was my job to make him see how wonderful he was with me.I meet this intimidated man one more time to exchange some things from our short, but intense, 2-week relationship.If you have any sage advice for this last opportunity, please do let me know.
How do you balance making a man feel good about being with you while impressing him with who you are so he wants to continue, and when/how do you stop impressing him?
I’m still wrestling with this and recently turned down a date with a man in a similar situation (less educated, less worldly, less credit, you get the idea…).
I don’t take all the blame here as I do want a strong man, and he wasn’t, but I do want to make sure the next guy can’t resist me even if my list intimidates him.
The queer men and women I spoke to had never been given the excuse of intimidation as the reason why they weren’t finding dates (though, admittedly, my findings are 100% anecdotal).
So, being a woman who used to mold and fold herself to meet society’s standards of “the girl he wants to date,” I started Googling to see exactly what men found intimidating in a woman, all in an effort to fix it in myself.