Japanese culture and dating
Here, women 16 or older sit behind a two-way mirror that only the men can see in, while the men take turns going from room to room looking at them, and if they so choose, ask to talk to her for a small fee.
If the woman decides to leave with him, then the man must pay a "transportation fee" to her, and then pay a fee to the cafe (they also pay a membership fee up front).
In a sense, this confession is much like our "I like you a lot. " Unlike in our culture though, which arguably places the male as the expected confessor/person to ask the other out, women generally confess as much as the men do.
Eventually, they enter the more serious stage of , or the status of boyfriend and girlfriend, and it soon becomes very serious from here.
As such, the prominence of dating rises significantly during college and beyond.
There is an enormous expanse and variance when it comes to how people meet and start their relationships.
In Japan, most do no begin to date until sometime after high school, primarily due to the high demand on the students to get into a good college.
Parents typically will discourage any form of dating, and students will simply be entirely too occupied with school and studying to give it any legitimate consideration.
When it comes to beginning a relationship in Japan, the level of shyness seems to be significantly magnified, possibly due to the lack of developing communication or flirtation skills with the opposite sex during adolescence.
This is the accepted way to do it; in fact, it is primarily the exception for someone to flat out deny or reject someone unless it's absolutely necessary to do so, as they would rather just...disappear, and try to avoid conflicts and confrontations whenever possible.
Even after dating for years, there have been cases where the significant other just flat out disappears and drops all communication, as they find it easier this way.
Men essentially pay up to dollars an hour to sit in a special booth and await the calls of women seeking men from anywhere (the phone numbers are on things given out on the street around town often times).
Some forms of meeting people to date take on a more time-tested cultural approach (though not as popular as it has been in the past) called , where the parents of a son or daughter will undergo a search process to find an appropriate mate if they seem to show little interest in seeking a partner of their own, helping to ensure they marry before acceptable window of marriageable age closes (22-30).